No one said adulting was going to feel like this

All your life you were told you had so* much potential...*

Turns out if you spend your twenties exceeding everyone's expectations but your own, you become an exceptional(ly) exhausted 30-year-old with a pre-mature mid-life crisis.

Say no more, let's chat!

Well...you always were ahead of your class 😉

hear me loud and clear

There are not enough Friends reruns streaming on TBS to make you laugh away the dread of knowing the life you've worked so d*mn hard for doesn't feel like your own.

If you're late-night scrolling Instagram, letting those little square optical illusions make you think those friends you haven’t really kept in touch with since high school…

have somehow hacked having it “all”.

We need to talk.

I love putting everyone else’s needs before my own so that my self-care routine is spent mindlessly eating frozen pizza at 11:30pm.

And that’s not exactly the 'big ol' city' life you dreamt up while pulling all-nighters to get those letters after your name.

...The ones make it look like you’re someone whose got it alllll figured out (and then some).

^Yeah—Literally no one said that ever.

which is exactly why it’s feels so lonely to feel so lost - you struggle so unsuspectingly

And...if we're being honest...that was kind of the goal...wasn't it? 😬🤦🏻‍♀️

revenge-procrastination

sorry, I'm not sorry for calling you out like that...it's kinda my job.

IF YOU'RE
FEELING...

Overwehlmed...

Your brain feels like it has too many tabs open. You know what you want more of but don't know where to start or what to prioritize first.
(or what to stop).

Exhausted...

You're doing all the things, all the time, but are running on auto-pilot. Even rest doesn't feel restful.

Disconnected...

When you to sit down to relax, you feel disconnected. Like someone pressed the mute button on your feelings channel.

there's a whole team of of women just like you trying to master the olymplic sport of exceeding competing expectations.

...can Someone please hook us up with t-shirts 👕

Does this sound like you?

You’ve checked off the education and career boxes but in the least satisfying to-do-list completion of your life feel like your repeated efforts to achieve something just don't leave the accomplished feeling they promised.

The balancing act of managing #allthethings feels like trying to nail a viral TikTok dance routine while holding three cups of artisanal coffee and managing a conference call. StressAndBurnout may as well be your middle name.

In short: you're living up to everyone's expectations but your own

And in a narrative turn not even T swift could imagine...🔁

find your accomplishments are directly correlated with your sense of failure 🫣

let's go

behind the squares of our generation

65% of millennials say that stress is getting in the way of their health and happiness

82% of women feel they have to handle their stress alone

And 59% feel that their concerns are minimized or dismissed by medical professionals

if you're 10/10 not cool with that, let's chat

(hint: that's where your counselor comes in. Hi: its me 🙋🏻‍♀️)

🎤 is this thing on? 🎤

The One Where You're a Thirty-Something...Chronically Exhausted By Becoming Whatever You Want To Be while Also Deferring to “The Man”

And when I say ‘the man' I don’t mean like, the man in your life who abandoned you.

(Though we can talk about him, too.)

I mean, the idea that there is some authority outside of yourself that knows more than you do about your life and gets to boss you around.

spoiler alert there isn't. (Full stop)
they don't. (Full stop).
& its you - you're the boss. (Period).

That your life is now an episode of

is both not your fault and your problem.

Its time you dismantle those be-less-of-yourself-belief systems so you can make living your best life more than just a meme.

this is your bull-in-the-china-shop era

I'm here to tell you that your intelligence is a strength, your sense of humor makes people laugh and think at the same time, and your emotional sensitivity is what enriches yours and other's lives with compassion.

I'm here to support you in embracing everything that makes you...you...so that your whole self can honestly answer the questions "what do I want?" and "what to do need?"

Because this life of yours...

it's just that.

Yours.

Competing expectations of women’s roles and a conditioned reliance on external sources of validation make us more likely to experience mental illness.

Twice as many women expreinece depression, anxiety, and PTSD at some point in their lives as compared to men.

i'm the let's-get-real-real-quick type

if that just gave you a new
(beautiful, I might add)
grey hair then stick with me...

But it wasn’t until 1994 (NINETEEN NINTY FOUR) that women were legally required to be included in the clinical research on the mental health diagnoses we are more likely to have.

(You didn’t get that dismissive inner-dialogue from no where So it's time to stop blaming yourself for it.)

basically, being a woman in a patriarchal society is a recipie for depression. (I said what I said.)

(Your eye sight is fine. Sexism isn’t.)

And because our self-esteem tends to rely on what’s outside of us, we’re more likely to be influenced by that help-seeking stigma, and less likely to reach out for support when we need it.

virtual one-on-one tele-therapy for folks located in the state of florida

Therapy that Meets you where you are

🥁 drum rollll pleeeease 🥁

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Let's demystify the process

Because truth is: the psychotheraputic techniques I was trained in...

They weren't created by some scientifically-minded Man-God and stored behind the locked-gates of our ivy-vine-lined institutions.

They were born of the innate, human need to be seen, heard, and understood.

I am here to help you come to the life-changing realization that *you* are an open door into the fullness of your *own* life.

You're looking for security in the perspective of someone who never took your needs into account

& dismissing what you know you need so that they (whoever 'they' are) don't think you're 'less than' some unrealistic standard that...frankly...

Isn't your business to uphold.

Your comfort zone is killing your vibe

let's make like the dare program circa 1998 and just say no to not seeking help

Sometimes it can feel like we are trying to zero out our suffering. But that's some bad-mental health math. We're not trying to nullify our humanity, but to establish a more intimate understanding of what we think, how we feel, and why.

Accnowledge everything that makes you *incredible* (without feeling weird about it)

let your inner child come fully alive

you are inherently worthy

The thing about co-dependence is that being over-extended *feels* like it's necessary to secure our relationships. You'll learn to notice where you've out-sourced your identity, so you can anchor your worth in yourself, and in your beliefs.

Create a sense of safety by clearly defining what you say 'yes' to and how to say 'no' with grace.

establish the boundaries you need to thrive

When your sense of safety relies on your ability to meet other people's expectations, it can be hard to tune in to your *own* signals about what feels right, good, and necessary, let alone trust what you do hear, when you do listen. We're about the change that, STAT.

Trust that you know what you feel, need, and desire.

listen to your intuition

I can help you

who would you be if you gave yourself what you needed but didn't get in childhood?

Our work begins with this question:

Psychotherapy is a fancy name for the process of reclaiming our *whole* selves...

Piece by piece we pick up the parts of ourselves we rejected and learn to love ourselves back to wholeness.

(yep…just like that Kelly Clarkson song from the ‘final’ season of American Idol in 2016)

In the safe harbor of the counseling hour, you’ll find the parts you let go of to make other people more comfortable, or the parts you pretended to have to make other people more proud.

Because rejecting ourselves to secure our connections to other people, only leads us into relationships that make us feel farther away from who we really are.

What we call the therapeutic profess unfolds as you ask yourself who you would have become if you celebrate yourself the way you deserved to be celebrated in childhood.

So you can re-establish the relationship you may not have ever known how to have with yourself in the first place.

Queue: 'Same Me But Better' ([Your Name Here]'s Version)

ready to begin?

First you'll reflect

You'll download your pre-call reflection prompts to prepare you for our first (free) 15-30 minute chat.

then we'll chat

You'll get clarity about what change feels most needed in this season, and if outpatient, tele-therapy is the best fit for you now.

then we'll get to work

Together we'll clarify a long-term plan for your growth, and identify where to begin now that feels realistic, and meaningful.

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My approach

Feminist

I acknowledge the complexity of being a woman in a patriarchal system where femininity is inherently a threat. I make space for you to discuss you experience of your femininity in a way that you isn't subordinate to someone else's perspective, needs, or feelings.

Psychodynamic

I listen for the ways your lived experience has set the tone for your relationship with yourself and see the counseling relationship as an example of, and opportunity to change that. I acknowledge the influence of the past, without losing sight of the present, or what your hope for your future is.

Narrative

I believe that with every thought we have and action we take in this life we are authoring our story. I accnowledge you as the author of your life and view the theraputic process as an invitation to re-tell that story.

M.Ed. CLINICAL MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELING

M.F.A CREATIVE WRITING

B.A. PSYCHOLOGY

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I know, I know..you're like 'who exactly is this girl, anyway? lemme tell yah!

ready to come home to yourself?

Let's make time to connect.

So much of your success in a theraputic process depends upon the strength of connection between you and your clinician. That's why I offer free 15-30 min. calls so you can get a sense of our alignment. Ready to connect?

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No one said adulting was going to feel like *this*

All your life you were told you had *so* much potential...